No matter what kind of life you’ve lived so far, you have the tools and the ability to up-level and upgrade your life.
It may be confusing to decide where to start, I get it. I’ve been there too. I had to figure it out all from scratch by reading personal development books and listening to podcasts but you don’t have to.
This is the work that I take on a deeper level with clients in my one on one coaching program but even if you’re not a part of it, I want you to have amazing results which is what this detailed blog post about how to change your life in 60 days is going to help you do.
The next 60 days: 1440 hours, 86,400 minutes, 518,400 seconds can be life-changing for you if you want them to be. Here’s how:
Create a morning and evening routine:
A well planned morning is always a result of the evening before.
Evenings are the perfect time to get cozy, relax, and recover from the day.
Take 20 minutes before bed to reflect on your how your day went by asking yourself the following 7 questions:
1. What was the strongest emotion I felt throughout the day and why?
2. What is the one thing I’m most proud of myself for today?
3. What could I have done better?
4. What did I do to reach one step closer to my goal?
5. What are the 3 things I’m most grateful for today?
6. What is the one thing I did today that I want to do differently tomorrow?
7. What are the top 3 things I want to accomplish and get done tomorrow? (Only 3)
Answering these questions is the perfect way to let out any frustration you might be holding, get clarity on what you can do better the next day, feel a sense of gratitude by listing down what you’re grateful for, and have a clear picture of your top 3 priorities for the next day.
This is also the perfect time to incorporate any additional self-care rituals that you might have in order to de-stress and get a good night’s rest.
Mornings: Tell me how you spend your mornings, and I’ll tell you whether you’ll be successful or not.
Morning routines are the perfect way to start your day. When you don’t create a morning routine, your brain simply defaults to what has been done in the past because it has no plan to follow.
That could look like: Snoozing the alarm, checking Instagram, reading messages, rolling out of bed, getting dressed, leaving for work.
When you intentionally plan out your morning in advance, you can get so much more accomplished.
You can intentionally give yourself 15 minutes to check your Instagram every morning and that is perfectly okay because you decided to do so intentionally and you know that at the end of 15 minutes you’re going to move on to what’s next rather than indulging for an hour.
Here are my key ideas for a morning routine that is guaranteed to give you more confidence and set you up for success: (And that only takes an hour!)
1. Go to bed an hour earlier and wake up at the same time everyday. For optimum sleep and waking up fresh, use this Sleep Calculator.
2. Decide on the one emotion or feeling which you want to feel the strongest that day: Empowered, Happy, Excited, Productive, Accomplished, Energetic, Light, etc. Now throughout the day, look for signs that you can truly feel this way.
3. Self-coach every single morning for 20 minutes. I have a detailed blog post all about how to coach yourself here and how you can make it a part of your morning routine. Start with a 10 minute brain dump where you just let yourself write without thinking. If you’re new to self-coaching, read this post to know how you can make the most out of those 20 minutes.
4. Take a walk for 20 minutes, at least 5 times a week. If you are someone who hits the gym or runs everyday, that’s great. If not, this is a great place to start. Several studies have proven that walking 20 minutes a day , 5 times a week can improve mood, lower the risk of heart disease, boost your memory, and improve your energy levels. I usually take this time to listen to a podcast but you can simply focus on being present in the moment and focus on your breath. Another great mental exercise while you walk, is to ask yourself this one powerful question that everyone who is successful asks “What am I thinking?”.
5. Fuel your body and your mind. Take 30 minutes out for yourself to make a quick, healthy, breakfast and enjoy it with your partner, with a good book, while practicing gratitude or with yourself by being present in the moment and enjoying it.
If you lose an hour in the morning, you’ll spend your whole day looking for it.
The human brain has (on an average) 60,000 thoughts every single day.
Majority of these thoughts are unintentional.
When you don’t actively choose your thoughts, your brain defaults to patterns of old thoughts from your past because it is a survival brain. It doesn’t know if those thoughts are good or bad, it only knows that they have kept you alive up-to this point so thinking and acting upon them will keep you alive in the future too.
This is why so many people live their life the same way for years. They aren’t even aware of this!
Why would you want that? Why would you let these unintentional thoughts drive your day?
Here are my top key tips to living intentionally:
1. Be more mindful by planning ahead.
Don’t just reach out for what’s available in your fridge when you’re hungry.Instead, start by planning out at least one meal a day in advance and slowly build it up to all your meals. Plan out the dessert or the snack you’re going to have when you feel hungry at night.
This is living intentionally.
It gives you a sense of power because you have decided to eat that cookie from your prefrontal cortex i.e. the rational part of your brain and not your primitive brain and you can enjoy it guilt free while truly devouring the taste.
Don’t just reach for your phone and start scrolling when bored. Instead be aware of the reason why you got on the internet and put the phone down once the time you have given yourself has passed.
It’s the little things that will make the most difference.
2. This next one is my favourite. Ask yourself throughout the day “What am I thinking?”.
Like we said before, the human brain has over 60,000 thoughts a day.
It’s important for you to be aware of what you’re thinking so that you don’t operate on default. This makes you aware of your thoughts, allowing you to change the thoughts that don’t serve you and let go of them.
This may seem a little uncomfortable at first but awareness is the difference between people who live the same way their entire lives and those who are constantly up-leveling their lives.
Practice being your future self:
This is a one time exercise but this is so powerful and life-changing.
Ask yourself what you want your future to look like 5 years from now. Imagine everything you possibly can from where you’re living to what you wear to when you wake up to what kind of friends you have to what kind of a partner you have to how you make money to how you dress to what you eat and especially what your future self is thinking.
Imagine it all and remember that you can imagine absolutely anything you wantbecause the future only exists as sentences in your head and no one can tell you that you’re wrong.
Despite your current circumstances or your past, you can imagine any future you want for yourself and you can create it.
Once you’ve described your future self in detail, I want you to write a letter from your future self to your current self.
What would your future self tell you? Would she tell you to continue eating the way you do or to change your lifestyle?
Would she ask you to be easy on yourself and show yourself more love and compassion? Would she ask of you to let go of your past because your future looks amazing regardless of what happened in the past?
Would she tell you to change our thoughts, be more positive, and feel excited because you’ve made it? Would she tell you to not wait for the 5 years to pass but instead start finding joy right now in your present circumstances and up-leveling your life today because the journey is going to be amazing?
Write this letter and read it frequently. This letter is so powerful and is going to give you so much clarity about what you should be doing and what you should let go of to create and live your dream life.
Set only one goal for the year:
I want you to pick any one aspect or area of your life from your future self letter (health, goal weight, money, job, business etc) that you want to start working on for the year.
Do you want to lose/gain and reach your goal weight because your future self weighs a certain weight? Do you want to start an online business and make money because your future self makes money that way? Do you want to find a meaningful relationship based on what your future self has?
Choose any one aspect and this is going to be your only goal for the year.
This does not mean that you cannot accomplish all your other goals but going all in on one goal for the rest of the year is what’s going to help you make massive progress and take your life to a whole another level.
Let’s say your goal for the year is to start a blog and make a consistent $5000/month by the end of the year.
What can you do in the next 60 days to get closer to that goal?
This would be taking a course on how to start and monetize your blog, buy hosting, write your first blog post etc.
By the end of these 60 days, you may not have made $5000 but you will be a lot closer to your goal and to creating your dream life because you went all in.
Create 3 new habits:
Create 3 new habits that you can incorporate in your everyday life to make it better.
I don’t recommend more than 3 when you’re starting out because it can get too overwhelming once the motivation starts to wear out.
Start with 3 simple ones and incorporate more once you’ve made these a part of your routine
“We become, what we repeatedly do” – Sean Covey
Here are some habits you can cultivate to up-level your life:
1. Reading 20 pages a day.
2. Meditating every morning.
3. Writing a blog post every Monday morning.
4. Doing cardio once a week.
5. Practicing yoga flow for 20 minutes a day
6. Journaling before bed.
7. Self-coaching every morning.
8. Working on your side hustle 3x a week.
9. Meal planning every weekend
10. Eating a fruit every single day.
Practice being alone and processing negative emotions:
Imagine you had a rough day at work, do you call your friends and go out drinking to get in a better mood?
This is something we often do: we buffer away the negative emotions.
For some people that looks like ignoring it like nothing is bothering them, for others it involves drinking and partying their worries away and for some others it looks like staying in and binge watching Netflix or binge-eating.
While everyone buffers in different ways, the result is the same: they’re not dealing with the issue in hand and seeking immediate pleasure to make themselves feel better.
There is nothing wrong with taking a break and staying in to watch a show. There is nothing wrong with going out partying and having a drink or two if you want. The best time to do so however is whenever you want and because you want to, not because you’re trying to buffer away the issues by calling it “Self-care”.
This can be challenging for some people but this alone is so life-changing and you will experience a different level of maturity and calmness once you master this.
I want you to start with understanding the separation between your thoughts, feelings, and facts.
Facts are circumstances that can be proven in the court of law. My shirt is green, I weigh 150 lbs, I have $10000 in my bank account.
Your thoughts are sentences in your head about the circumstance. Green does not look good on me, I should lose 20 lbs, I don’t have enough money.
Your feelings are vibrations in your body caused by the thought. They can only be one word: Embarrassed, scarcity, conscious, etc.
I want you to identify the feeling you are experiencing in your body and describe it in one word along with describing where you feel it in your body.
For example, you may feel anger in your chest and it feels hot. You may feel anxiety in your gut and it feels uneasy.
I don’t want you to resist the negative emotion. I definitely don’t want you to fix it. I simply want you to recognize it, be as specific as you can, and describe how it feels in your body.
A great way to process negative emotions is to use the self-coaching model.
Step 1: Start by writing down the emotion you feel in the F-line of the model.
Step 2: Then write down the thought you had that caused you to feel that way.
Step 3: Write down the C-line i.e. the circumstance you were in when you had that thought.
Step 4: Fill in the A-line with the action you took in the situation.
Step 5: Write down the results of your actions in the R-line.
Let’s take an example. You worked hard on a project at work, gave it your all, and your boss said it wasn’t good enough.
C: Boss said my work wasn’t good enough.
T: Boss doesn’t appreciate me or my efforts.
F: Hurt, frustrated.
A: Sulk about it; complain about how unfair it is; not be focused on work because you’re dwelling on what happened.
R: Work suffers more, feel demotivated.
This is such an amazing way to get an overview and be aware of the results we’re creating. Once we are aware, we can then start to change the model to work in our favour i.e. create an intentional model.
C: Boss said my work wasn’t good enough.
T: My work did not meet the standards for him because we had different visions for the project
A: Ask the boss what he/she would have wanted differently, make suggestions as per your vision and make changes accordingly.
R: A better project is delivered, boss notices your positive attitude and efforts, feel motivated.
See the difference? In both the models the circumstance is the same, it is the thought that makes all the difference.
The only mistake I don’t want you to make is to jump straight to creating the intentional model.
Write down your current model, be aware, and then gently loosen the thoughts and create your intentional model.
This exercise will help you identify and process your negative emotions so that you can create better results and move past it rather than buffer them.
These 6 aspects are going to be life-changing for you.
To help you change your life around and create your dream life in the next 60 days, I’ve put together the “How to change your life in 60 days” workbook which will help you incorporate all the 6 aspects in a way that is fun and will help you measure your progress and results.