How to set and stay committed to a terrifying goal (One impossible goal philosophy)
If for the next 5 minutes you had the power to create anything you can imagine, what would you imagine your life to be like? How much money do you have? Where do you live? Who do you live with? How do you spend your day? What are you thinking?
If anything was possible, what would you create for yourself?
Now, what if I told you that you can create that life for yourself, starting today, starting now?
In order to live a life you’ve never lived before, you need to take actions and think the way you’ve never thought before.
I want you to pick any one aspect of the dream life that you want for yourself and I’m going to show you how you can learn to create that for yourself by setting the right goal. You can choose career, relationships, money, health, or anything else that you want the most. The only rule is that you have to be really specific.
Let’s say, for the sake of this post, that in your dream life, you’ve quit your job, started an online business, and make $100,000. How can you achieve that goal this year?
“Woah, that’s impossible. Why would I set myself up for disappointment and failure? The timing just isn’t right, you know.“
Because the timing is never perfect and why would you set yourself up for disappointment ahead of time by not even trying? You already know it’s impossible, so the worst-case scenario is that you don’t achieve it and everything stays as it is right now. You’re already living the worst case so you know you can handle it.
You set a goal to lose 50 pounds and if you don’t, you still weigh the same or maybe you just lose 10 pounds. That’s great because you’re already living what you think is your worst-case scenario or you’re 10 pounds closer to your goal!
Now think of what happens if it does work out. Imagine what happens when you set the above goal and go all in. Maybe you don’t achieve your goal of making 6 figures but make end up making an extra $40,000 a year in the process.
The actions you have to take, the skills you have to master, and the way you train your brain along the way will make you a completely different person at the end of those 12 months. And let’s face it, that version of you 12 months down the line is going to be a lot closer to creating and living the dream life than the current version of you.
You can set a SMART goal, you can set a small goal, but if you’re looking to transform your life, you will set an impossible goal.
So decide that you’re going to do it, and let’s dive into how you can set this goal and achieve it.
The Impossible Goal:
What do you think is literally impossible for you right now? Depending on your circumstances, that can be anything from losing 50 pounds to creating an online business to starting a blog to making money online to finding a partner.
I want you to decide on a goal for the next 12 months that aligns with your dream life and that you really want but haven’t gone after because you believe it can’t be available to you.
The goal should be huge. It should excite you, it should scare you, and most of all, it should embarrass you to say out loud. If you aren’t embarrassed to say it out loud right now, it isn’t big enough. And why would you settle for something small when you have what it takes to make it big?
Once you’ve set your impossible goal for the next 12 months, I want you to practice believing in your goal and working on your mindset. This is harder than it sounds and that’s okay because this is such an essential part of the process and it is so worth it.
Very often, people will set an impossible goal of say, starting a blog and earning $100,000 in their first year. And this is an amazing example of an impossible goal. But then they decide that if they’re able to make their first $1000, then they’ll fully commit to the goal of making a $100,000. They look for evidence to believe in their goal and I never want you to do that.
Looking for evidence is a sign that you’re not believing in your goal hard enough and when you don’t believe hard enough, you quit.
You tell yourself it’s not for you or that you don’t want it or some other excuse about how you can’t have it because you haven’t ever done it before or because you don’t know-how. As if that’s a good excuse to not do it! Doing something new, by definition means not having done it before. Not knowing how isn’t a better excuse either because the how is actually the easiest part of the process.
My goal is to make a consistent $10,000 a month from my blog by the end of the year. My brain freaked out when I set this goal and came up with at least 50 reasons as to why that’s not possible and I had every reason to agree with my brain. Had I given up then, I would have never created and designed this blog. I would have never been able to do what I do. I may not have reached my goal just yet but I’m sure so much more closer to it than I would have been if I had given up.
Your brain freaking out is normal. You just have to do it anyway because the worst that can happen is that nothing changes and everything stays as it is.
“Okay, so practice believing in it and don’t look for evidence, got it. But the goal is so huge and impossible, how can I start believing in it?”
You start by taking small possible actions for your big, amazing, an impossible goal.
A mistake most people make is that in order to achieve their impossible goal, they set huge impossible action plans. If their goal is to make $100,000 a year blogging, they spread it out evenly and decide that they’re going to make $8,333 their first month.
That’s where the mistake is. Your goal should be huge but your daily actions should be small and very much possible.
Instead of spreading it out evenly, your goal for the first month can be to get your website set up and start driving traffic. Your goal for the second month can be to make $1000. Your goal for the third month can be to make $2000 and so on till you make a consistent $8,333 a month.
Contrast that to deciding to make $8,333 in your first month, you’re going to be disappointed and give up in the very beginning.
So break down your impossible goal into 12 milestones. These milestones should reflect the results you would have achieved. So for your business, your milestone for the first month would be that you’ve set up your website, uploaded your content, and started driving traffic. Your milestone for the second month would be $1000 and so on.
This gives your brain something possible to focus on. It may not believe that you can make a $100,000 just yet but believing you can set up a website is definitely something it will believe in.
Once you’ve set your milestones, it’s time to start taking action.
Prepare to fail every single day.
You are going to fail so many times and that’s absolutely okay. There are so many people who don’t take action because they fear failure. Every single person who is now successful has failed over and over again. You have to be willing to fail to live like those few people.
The best part about this is that you don’t have to worry about failing in your results. You just have to not fail in the taking of your actions.
If your action list asks to write 5 blog posts, you do take that action. If no one reads them, that’s secondary. You took action and now you’re going to take the next possible action of trying to drive traffic from a different source and so on.
The way to achieve your impossible goal is to take possible actions. You don’t have to know how you’re going to do everything just yet. You just have to know what your next action is going to be. You have to make the next best decision and fail forward. If something didn’t work, that’s great. You can rule it out and try something else and something else and something else.
When something doesn’t work, don’t adjust your goals but adjust your plan.
If your goal is to lose 50 pounds, you may get on the scale the first month and see you’ve gained 2 pounds instead. If your goal is to make $100,000, you may end up breaking even or only making a $10,000. When that happens, I want you to remember that you failed forward and that is amazing. You learned what doesn’t work and what you can do next and you can keep moving forward.
Become a millionaire not for the million dollars, but for what it will make of you to achieve it.”— Jim Rohn
Stay committed, be excited, fail forward, and blow your mind.
I know you can do it. I believe in you even if you don’t believe in yourself. I’m here to help you achieve your impossible goal. I’m your biggest supporter and it’s time to blow our own freaking minds!